Navigating Non-Monogamy
For couples considering opening their relationship or already practicing ethical non-monogamy—polyamory, open relationships, relationship anarchy, swinging, or other consensual structures. All relationship structures and identities are welcome here.
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Affirming support for every stage
Whether you're in the early conversations about opening up, have recently transitioned and are finding it harder than expected, or are an established non-monogamous partnership navigating jealousy, logistics, or evolving agreements, this is a space to do the work without stigma or assumptions.
Do You Recognize Yourselves?
- Conversations about opening up that stall, spiral, or reveal deep incompatibilities
- Jealousy that feels bigger or more destabilizing than anticipated
- Managing time, energy, and emotional bandwidth across multiple connections
- One partner moving faster or wanting more than the other
- Metamour dynamics—navigating your partner's other partners
- Agreements that seemed clear but turn out to be complicated in practice
- The isolation of having few people to talk to about what's really happening
The Patterns Worth Watching
One partner initiating non-monogamy and the other agreeing under pressure rather than enthusiasm—and the fallout that follows. Using an open relationship to avoid existing disconnection rather than building on real strength. New relationship energy (NRE) creating imbalance. Agreements made without enough self-knowledge unraveling under real-world conditions. Jealousy being pathologized rather than treated as information. Attachment insecurity amplified by a structure that asks for a high degree of internal security.
How I Can Help
I offer a non-judgmental, kink- and ENM-affirming therapeutic space—no agenda about what your relationship should look like. I use EFT to identify the attachment needs and fears beneath jealousy and conflict, and structured conversations to clarify what each partner actually wants, fears, and needs. Together we build honest, boundaried, revisable agreements; develop tools for managing jealousy as a signal; and create communication practices robust enough to hold the complexity of multiple connections—with support through any transition, whether opening up, restructuring, or returning to monogamy.
Frequently Asked Questions
No. I provide a non-judgmental, kink- and ENM-affirming space with no agenda about what your relationship structure should look like. Whether you’re opening up, restructuring, or in some cases returning to monogamy, my role is to support what works for you.
Not necessarily. Jealousy is information about an unmet need, not automatically a sign that something is wrong. We’ll treat it as a signal rather than a threat and use it to understand the attachment needs underneath — which is often where the real work is.
It’s worth slowing down and looking at honestly. When one partner agrees under pressure rather than genuine enthusiasm, or when opening up is used to avoid existing disconnection, things tend to get harder. Therapy gives you space to clarify what each of you actually wants, fears, and needs.
Build a structure that actually works for you
Non-monogamy asks a lot of a relationship—and you don't have to figure it out alone. Schedule a free consultation to talk about where you are and what you need.
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