Couples Therapy & Relationship Counseling
For couples who feel stuck in recurring arguments, emotional distance, or a sense of growing apart. Whether you're navigating a specific crisis or a slow erosion of connection, therapy can help you understand what's happening and find your way back to each other.
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Feeling disconnected from your partner?
Couples come to me newly committed or long-term, same-sex or heterosexual, often when one or both partners are questioning whether the relationship can be repaired. You don't have to be in crisis to come in—and it's never too early to get support. Together we'll understand the patterns driving your disconnection and create new, healthier ways of relating.
Do You Recognize Yourselves?
- Conversations that escalate into fights or shut down entirely
- Feeling like roommates rather than partners
- Carrying resentment without knowing how to release it
- Dread around bringing up certain topics
- Loneliness inside the relationship
- Difficulty making decisions together
- Disconnection after a major life transition—a move, a baby, a loss, a career change
The Patterns Beneath the Conflict
Most couples get caught in a pursue-withdraw cycle, where one partner pushes for closeness and the other pulls away. Gottman's “Four Horsemen”—criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling—start to show up. Love languages that don't match leave both partners feeling unseen, unspoken expectations become a source of repeated conflict, and past wounds—including childhood attachment patterns—play out in present arguments.
How I Can Help
I use Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) to identify and shift the underlying attachment cycle driving your conflict, alongside Gottman Method tools for building friendship, managing conflict, and creating shared meaning. We'll build communication skills—learning to express needs without blame and listen without defensiveness—and use structured conversations to process specific ruptures and rebuild trust. Between sessions, you'll practice new patterns in real time.
Areas We Can Focus On
- Communication — when you love each other but can't talk without it going sideways
- Betrayal & Affair Recovery — healing after infidelity, deception, or a major breach of trust
- Intimacy — rebuilding emotional and physical closeness
- Navigating Non-Monogamy — opening up, or thriving in ethical non-monogamy
What to Expect
We'll begin with an initial session where both partners share their perspective. From there, I'll develop a treatment plan focused on your specific goals—whether that's improving communication, rebuilding trust, or deepening emotional connection.
Sessions are available online via secure video for couples in California and Virginia. Many couples start with weekly sessions and transition to biweekly as they build new skills and patterns.
Frequently Asked Questions
Ideally, yes — but it’s common for one partner to be more enthusiastic than the other. What matters is that both of you are willing to show up and participate honestly. Many reluctant partners find the process more useful than they expected once they experience the first session.
That’s okay. Couples therapy isn’t about forcing a relationship to work — it’s about helping you get clarity. Sometimes that means rebuilding and strengthening the relationship. Sometimes it means realizing you’re better apart. Either way, therapy can help you make that decision with honesty and respect.
I primarily use Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) to identify and shift the attachment cycle underneath your conflict, along with Gottman Method tools for building friendship, managing conflict, and creating shared meaning. We also work on practical communication skills and structured conversations to process specific ruptures.
In couples therapy, the relationship is the client. We focus on the patterns between you — communication styles, conflict cycles, attachment dynamics — rather than individual issues. That said, I may recommend individual sessions alongside couples work if deeper personal issues are affecting the relationship.
Ready to take the first step together?
Your relationship is worth fighting for. Schedule a free consultation to discuss what you're going through and how couples therapy can help.
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